The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management - Finding the Gift
By Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.
You can feel it when it hits you. Your face flushes and your vision narrows. Your heartbeat increases as judgmental thoughts flood your mind. Your anger has been triggered, and you're about to say or do something that will likely make it worse.
You have an alternative. By practicing the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process you can use that anger to serve a specific, life-enriching purpose. It tells you that you're disconnected from what you value and that your needs are not being met. Rather than managing your anger by suppressing your feelings or blasting someone with your judgments, Marshall Rosenberg shows you how to use anger to discover what you need, and then how to meet your needs in constructive ways.
This booklet will help you apply these four key truths: - People or events may spark your anger but your own judgments are its cause - Judging others as "wrong" prevents you from connecting with your unmet needs - Getting clear about your needs helps you identify solutions satisfying to everyone - Creating strategies focused on meeting your needs transforms anger into positive actions
Table of Contents(provided by Publisher. All Rights Reserved):
A Brief Introduction to NVC
Anger and NVC
It Works Even If Only One Person Applies It
Steps to Handling Our Anger
The First and Second Steps
Evaluating Triggers that Lead to Anger
Trigger versus Cause
An Illustration of Stimulus versus Cause of Anger
The Third Step
Developing a Literacy of Needs
The Fourth Step
Punishment and Anger
Killing People Is Too Superficial
From Philosophical to Tactical to Practical
Example of One Woman's Anger
Getting Understanding from Others about Our Feelings and Needs
Enjoying the Judgment Show in Your Head
Take Your Time
Anger Sound Bites
Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have
About CNVC and NVC
About PuddleDancer Press
Trade Books from PuddleDancer Press
Trade Booklets from PuddleDancer Press
NVC Materials Available from CNVC
How You Can Use the NVC Process
ISBN: 9781892005151 ISBN-10: 1892005158 Series: Nonviolent Communication Guides Audience: General Format: Paperback Language: English Number Of Pages: 48 Published: 1st April 2005 Publisher: Puddle Dancer Press Country of Publication: US Dimensions (cm): 21.59 x 13.97 x 0.64 Weight (kg): 0.08
What is Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication?
What is Violent Communication?
If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate - judging others, bullying, racial profiling, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating against others, speaking without listening, criticizing, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people, could indeed be called 'violent communication'.
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Nonviolent Communication is the integration of 4 things:
Consciousness:a set of principles that support living a life of empathy, care, courage, and authenticity
Language: understanding how words contribute to connection or distance
Communication: knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even in disagreement, and how to move toward solutions that work for all
Means of influence: sharing 'power with others' rather than using 'power over others'
Nonviolent Communication serves our desire to do three things:
1: Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection 2: Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships 3: Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit
I'm a Certification Candidate with The Center for Nonviolent Communication specialising in helping people create more enriching and vital relationships, resolve long-standing inner conflicts, listen more deeply and express themselves more fully.
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